Be open with your partner and leave all topics up for discussion, and accept the same in return. The most important part of your Me and You routine is sticking to it. The two of you might feel like you are worlds apart, so don’t worry about overcommunicating. Make sure you can fully commit yourself to this set schedule, and remember—the better and more frequently you two communicate, the more satisfying the relationship. If your long-distance lover truly loves you, they will be willing to make sacrifices. That does not mean they have to leave everything behind and move where you are immediately.

We stayed loyal

Long distance relationships are a balancing act of close contact and space. You want to make sure you know what’s going on with your partner, but not so much that it’s suffocating. There aren’t many benefits to distance, so use the few that it offers, namely space. It’s great to be in contact, but also allow yourself to spend uninterrupted time with friends and family, or even alone as needed. Committed relationships take time, and long distance relationships can free up some of that time.

The Tightrope between Friends with Benefits and the Friend zone

Most people don’t really look forward to their chores. Dishes, laundry, cleaning the toilet — these tasks likely aren’t your preferred way to spend an evening, especially if you have to do everything on your own. Enjoy the movie with your partner by calling or video chatting while you watch. This method may take some time to get used to, of course.

Try not to overload the other person with tons of activities and gifts which may make you appear needy or clingy. The long distance relationship, I believe, takes even more effort, even more patience and even more trust and understanding to make it work out in the long run. But as people in LDRs will tell you, there are also some positive aspects to the experience that you may not have considered before.

You can mention any new or interesting things you see and even take pictures. You might feel like part of you is missing if your partner is miles away, but try to keep up with your usual routines. Remember, you aren’t just part of a unit — you’re still your own person. Plus, keeping busy often helps relieve feelings of loneliness. There may come the point in a long-distance relationship where you feel like it will not work.

A friend of mine was long-distance with her boyfriend for three years because she didn’t want to sacrifice her job. By the time she had three years of experience under her belt, her company let her work remotely because they didn’t want to let her go, and she could’ve found another job if they didn’t. Not everyone’s life can be uprooted right away, but people move for love all the time and make it work. When you’re in a new relationship and it’s unclear when you’re going to see each other next, the whole future of the relationship can look bleak. Just getting plane tickets, even if they’re for months into the future, reassures you both that you’re still dating, even if you haven’t been on a date in weeks.

Whether you are using their website or mobile app, you will need to provide an e-mail and a password to sign up. Next, you enter your personal information, including name, birth date, gender (more options than just male/female), and your location. Then the site will ask you to answer a few questions about your dating preferences and the type of connection you are looking for.

You can waste a lot of time chatting and flirting with someone who may not even be a real person. If your partner does not agree to a video date reasonably soon after you meet online, move on. Even if you are talking on the phone every day, it helps to plan at least one video date per week. Video dating presents less opportunity for people to hide and exposes the environment they live in better than calls and texts. When I was an 18-year-old college freshman competing on the speech and debate team for Southern Utah State College, I met an enchanting young girl from another college .

At first, I expected us to have amazing, in-depth conversations every single time we talked. Of course, I did this because I love hanging out with him but also because, in a long-distance relationship, there are fewer organic ways to build up that trust and connection. A long-term relationship will inevitably change because people change.


As well, using video chat to be more present can allow you to simulate some of the best parts of dating. For Connell Barrett, a dating coach for The League and founder of, the best way to make it work is by using lots of different forms of communication. As for how to get your sexual needs met in a long-distance relationship, Bennett recommends trying your hand at sexting. As for how these situations differ in the way these relationships are carried out, that it has to do with how long the distance is set to last. However, even with all of the apps and technology available, maintaining a successful long-distance relationship is still no walk in the park.

You do not have to isolate yourself when in a long-distance relationship. Go out with friends and enjoy yourself often, have movie nights with your siblings, and talk to your parents. Sometimes you are not thinking straight because they are out with their friends. Anger and jealousy affect the bond you have with the other person. You have to ignore little things and build trust that is rock hard. You have to be there for each other, and you have to free your time to talk to your loved ones.

Actually the whole first year in general was rough. We pulled away from his dorm room and I was in the backseat of his parents car just silently sobbing and his dad was trying to give me a pep talk in the front seat. So funny thinking back on it now but in the moment I thought life was horrible hahaha. I feel like it’s important to mention that Ben and I were the couple that did everything together. We hung out like every single day (which I’ll get to why long distance was actually super good for us because of this). So, the thought of us only seeing each other once a month was impossible to imagine.